Hope your Ramadan is going well and damn its almost over. It’s literally flown by! But if you haven’t already try and make the most of the last few days remaining because who knows if you’ll be here to experience another. You could never do enough but do why you can do and are able to do.
I know in the last post I said how I’d be posting a new post in a few days but honestly after tarahwih I just feel shattered and plus I’m lazy lol. This year has been tiring I thought I’d have time to blog and blog often but I didn’t realise how difficult it would be and how tired I’d get.
But anyway, let me tell you a story.
A few months back I had to get my passport made in a day as it was urgent so I had 4hours to kill so walked around London and got lost a bit too, but I went wondering. I ended up at Westminster pier and sat opposite were the London eye is. At that time I was really down and had things going on in my head and was feeling pretty crappy and I’m one person who’s emotions shows through my face and I become really restless and fidgety. So I was sat thinking and I was fidgeting with a bottle cap or something and there was this man he walked pass me and said ‘cheer up’ he must’ve been looking at me from a distance to realise. So anyway this man was heavy on his feet and had a huge grey beard and a long coat and beanie on I assumed he was homeless by the way he was dressed. So anyway as he walked pass he said ‘cheer up’ and I gave him a smile as he went off. A few minutes later it was time for me to go and I saw the same man raiding the bin I walked pass and he was like ‘have a good day’ and I smiled. I took a few steps and it didn’t really sink in as to what I had just seen. I stopped. The man who told me to cheer up is raiding the bin? what? My initial thought was shall I give him some change? But then who knows what he would spend it on. I knew one thing for sure that f i hadn’t given the man anything I would’ve regretted it the whole day. I then remembered I had a bar of chocolate in my bag so I walked up to the man at the bin and handed it to him, and as He was delighted. He said ‘thank you, cheer up okay? Have a good day’ I smiled and said ‘ You too’ as I walked away from him tears instantly filled my eyes. How could a man who’s raiding the bins tell me to cheer up?
In a matter of just a minute it made me realise how minute my problems were. A man who knows nothing about me and who i witnessed raiding the bin told me to cheer up. My problems are nothing compared to what he probably is/was going through. The man who can’t afford to feed himself is telling me to cheer up and to have a good day. It just shows that appreciate what you have and the small problems you’re going through because there are people out there who have it a lot worse than we do. I know that saying is hated but its true. We will find solutions to our problems but there’s people out there who are going through things we wouldnt imagine and its so much more difficult for them to find a solution. We have everything to be grateful for. We have friends and family that love us, we have food ready to be eaten as soon as we get home, we have a roof over our head, and most importantly we have God.
Never forget your blessings and the happiness in your life. We all will be put through trials and tests but that’s part of the game. No one said it was easy. No matter how cliche this sounds but you’ve just for to be patient and have full faith in Allah (SWT). No matter how much we want something and no matter how much we plan His plan is far better. So just have sabr if things aren’t going the way you want and let His plan unfold. When things don’t go the way we want and when things bring us down we forget all the things we have been blessed with and all the happiness we do have in our life. Why do we let one small bump in the road steal all of that away? Why do we stop and concentrate on the obstacles and the negatives? We go through things to learn, to build us stronger.
Tests come at you, one after the other, like bullets. Not to kill you. But to teach you how to master the matrix. – Yasmin Mogahed
We have so much to be happy about but we let people and things steal that away from us. Why? If someone steals your happiness they don’t deserve you to be in their life. Surround yourself with people who love you for who you are and who genuinely make you happy. Don’t surround yourself with people who expect you to be a person you’re not because they’ll always bring you down and you yourself would never be happy. Be you, you’re your own person.
I’ve had people come and go from my life I’ve lost people I didn’t think I would but life goes on and you drift apart and things happen. That’s all part of life. Right now I have the closest people to me 100s and 1000s of miles away and no I’m no exaggerating! And some I barely ever get to speak to but time and distance doesn’t mean anything. Those people they make me the happiest and honestly right now I’m probably the most happiest I have ever been. Not only because of awesome people and the most loving family I have in my life its because I’ve learnt to let go of things that don’t need to be held on to and distanced myself from people who’s aim is to bring me down. When you realise the things that do and don’t matter honestly you’ll be happy and when you accept the fact that Gods plan is the greatest your heart will find peace. Don’t ever look for happiness in the big things because that would only leave a temporary happiness. Look for happiness in small things and it’ll make your heart smile and it’ll be those things that later on you’ll remember. So just smile. Be happy no matter how much sometimes it may hurt because even then you’ll find something small to be happy about. Does that make sense? Probably not! But oh well. Just smile. It’s sunnah!
Oh and I’m not telling you to be some happy chap all the time! Its okay to be upset and to cry and to have your days but just think about what you’re upset about is it really worth you being upset over?
I want you to remember one thing and that’s when you feel like you can’t go on remember Allah never moved an inch from you, you moved from Him. You have your greatest weapon and that’s sincere dua. So just make dua from your heart.
And… That’s that!
I’ll leave you with two quotes!
Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, but it only saps today of all joy, so do your best, trust in the Almighty & don’t worry, be happy. – Mufti Ismail Menk
Those who make you smile, thank them. Those who make you cry, tolerate them. Those who make you smile with tears in your eyes, treasure them. – Mufti Ismail Menk
P.S this is a reminder for myself before anyone else!